What do we do when
friends and loved ones come to us for, and expect emotional support from us?
Spirituality teaches us the right technique of providing emotional support -
the technique of detached involvement, which is the technique of not being
overawed, of not being affected ourselves by the emotions of others. If a friend, colleague or any loved one is
upset and we also get upset (because we love them - that's what we normally undergo),
we cannot provide them the necessary support or the assistance to see why they
are reacting emotionally and how they might change the nature of their emotions
by themselves. True love for someone
would mean that I am able to provide them that. While being concerned is fine,
but by becoming upset, seeing them upset simply aggravates the situation and
adds fuel to their fire.
By remaining detached,
we can be more effective in our ability to care, listen and help them think
clearly about the situation, they find themselves in. Only if we are stable, and that can happen
only when we are detached, will we be able to provide them stability. We can encourage and empower them to change
their negative reaction to a more positive response, and thereby generate a
healthier energy. If we become
over-involved in someone else's problems, there is a risk that our own judgment
will be affected negatively. This is why
making decisions and choices under the influence of your own and others'
emotions is normally ineffective.
(Article courtesy: Brahma
Kumaris)
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